I was in Victoria’s Secret a few days ago with 2 girlfriends of mine, shopping for some much needed new bras.  Amongst the sexy satin and cute cotton frilly things a friend pointed to a greater than life size poster suggesting that I buy the panties the model was wearing.  I scoffed at her, what need do I have for black, see through lace panties with a large bow on the back?  ”They’re cute,” my other friend said joining in.  Yes they were cute, but then I realized the difference between my friends and I - they were both in long term committed relationships, of course they have time for cute lingerie!  I, on the other hand as I pointed out to both of them, am more likely to bring someone home after a drunk night at the bar where we both feverishly rip at each others clothing, strewing them around the room in a passion fueled quest to get naked as quickly as possible.  We’ve all been there, waking up after a one night stand, barely remembering how we got home that night, let alone what the other person was wearing.  Cute, or even sexy, lingerie is lost on these encounters, not to mention how hard it is to hide a large satin bow under your clothing!

And so my lingerie drawer stays closed but don’t get me wrong, I’ll still be matching my bras and underwear as much as possible, leaving the granny panties for desperate laundry days and wearing nude colored things only when absolutely necessary because even if the guys don’t notice, I do.  Wearing nice undergarments makes me feel good about myself, kind of like I have a secret hidden under my clothes that no one but me knows about.  I won’t be indulging in complicated lingerie anytime soon, but practical pieces?  Sure, it’ll be my little secret.